That last question is the one that I constantly ask myself. I want to give my kids a warm, happy, memory when they grow up and think back about their mother. Writing has opened the door for me, it allowed me to be able to express how I feel.
I want people to remember me for being a positive person. I've learned it does not do well to dwell on the past, for you cannot change it, you can revisit it, you can remember it, but it simply will not change! That's why when people look back I try to give them a positive memory.